I was struck by a recent episode on one of my favorite talk shows... Dr. Phil .. This is very sad to say the least .. but in this recent episode about a pretty abusive Mother that originally showed up on an earlier episode with anger issues and had two Daughters that were living around these issues .. She then returns for this new episode .. one Daughter had really turned her life around and is growing in a positive direction  and is doing awesome and the other is the more difficult.  She had no intentions of growing any further in a positive direction .. and her Mother decided to give her choices .. of college, job or volunteer ... somewhere to help others .. This Daughter .. decided on none of these ... instead decided to spend her life on the streets...panhandling ..  basically homeless .. But what bothered me the most .. was that she blamed her mother for HER DECISION .. Yes, her Mother wasn't right in her earlier behavior ... but apparently is now progressing on a better path .. She was given a choice .. which a lot of us just we're given that luxury .. As a Mother as I see it .. these kids these days seem to grow up with a strong entitlement that the world owes them something .. that they don't really need an education or a job .. or any kind of work ethic.. I'm seeing quite a lot of that lately .. I have a dear friend whose Daughter who has just recently been arrested this past week and now has been brought up on murder charges amongst other serious charges.  She is described as a "drifter" in the exact same area as the Daughter of the woman on Dr. Phil.. This area is described as a very high area for transients .. or drifters.  This young 18 year old woman .. barely a woman .. pretty much still a child herself .. has given her family problems from a very young age riddled with drug abuse, delinquency ... and as they say.. just was always hanging out with the "wrong crowd." It was a pretty troubled home... This is just so horribly sad .. as I know no one is perfect and I know for a fact that her Mother has always tried to do the right thing ... but it takes both parents ... Children don't seem to be brought up in a loving nurturing home and seem to act out in these serious ways... drugs, running away... etc.  and seems to be searching for something missing in her life.. I saw this in my own family where my own parents never really "loved"each other just merely existing with one another.. Both had their own holes in their lives to repair especially my mother ... she was never happy .. They always doted on my brother giving him everything possible.  However, in his search to be happy I believe he made his own choice to medicate his life ... numbing himself with alcohol.. then pot .. and to this day he's a 30 year crack addict.. My parents enabled him as they thought they were HELPING HIM.. but in actuality, it made THEM feel better rather than doing what was best for him.... thus they are now both dead and he is still searching and abusing making excuses .. I truly believe there has been a serious breakdown in our family structure and values... where couples are having children without planning, getting married for the wrong reasons and not really taking marriage and what it stands for seriously and respecting and treating the constitution of marriage as God intended and created it to be.  Not being serious as a parent and realizing that you are completely and totally responsible for a "life".  Teaching them right from wrong and getting caught up in their own problems without realizing how much their actions as parents and adults really affect our children... Although I don't see this first young woman who was on the show has gotten into drugs .. I can only pray for her future that she may come to her senses and rethink her decision to be on the streets... its very very sad.  I pray for this family and families out there that have lost their way... and are suffering each and everyday... 

Aloha & A Hui Hou ... 

  

You get what you give out ...

Sometimes it amazes me on how people can treat one another ... even after years of marriage ...  Even though they are angry frustrated and miserable with themselves ... don't admit it and then you're the one that gets the brunt after you react in a negative way ... I've learned through even a short amount of recreating myself that you can learn a positive thing through any and every event ... Training your mind to remember and pushing yourself to be POSITIVE IS KEY...   FIND THE POSITIVE IN EVERYTHING!!! GOD DOESNT MAKE MISTAKES !!! ❤️❤️❤️

Follow Your Heart❤️

I'm not so sure what or how things will end up tomorrow but I know in trusting things will work according to the plan God has for me ...

I used to worry about every single thing ... some horrible family trait ... but I've chosen a new path ... It's a new direction ... positive and filled with energy and most of all FAITH .. A strong deep faith in God ... a great way to begin a new year ... and moving to grow and enjoy God's plan and direction .. I am a true believer in ... intuition, faith ... that real feeling when you know something is right ... that strong "gut " feeling when you REALLY know what to do ... So follow your "heart❤️"... 

Aloha🌴 & A  Hui Hou!!! 

A Very Sloww death....

Not sure where to start... all I know is that I have no sympathy for someone that doesnt want to help themself..  I never realized .. how much I really had things together... or why I was soo resentful for years ... till I saw him laying in his bed .. not even being able to keep his eyes open... but still denying... he doesn't have a problem at all.  Sooo very sad and really pathetic.  To be honest, I never really felt close to the guy.... he was always so arrogant and always acted like he knew everything.  

It made me not like him even more... with each and every event ... and how he always seem to want more but just was never able to accept ... that he could have really had more.. if ONLY HE WOULD HAVE GONE THROUGH THE STEPS....

I just don't get it!!!  

How can someone SOO SMART be soooo STUPID!!  

I just keep thinking "Life is too short.. Wake the F up!!"

Through the years ... I've been always called on to "Call the hospitals, call the jails.. he's missing again!!"  I really hated that but more importantly really didnt understand his actions..Addictions are what they are ... ADDICTIONS! 

Addiction is the continued use of a mood altering substance or behavior despite adverse consequences, or a neurological impairment leading to such behaviors ...

We all have addictions of some type.  Whether its smoking, drinking, eating or my vice is shopping.. 

Its our way of dealing with some type of an emotional trigger... stress or just dealing with the problems in life.  Addiction is a weakness.. of NOT being able to deal with life!

It surely is a shame seeing him waste his life on each and every  

"binge" event and seeing his body and

 mind deteriorate.. was just plain sad. 

 I really really dont get it!!

Such a very sad state of affairs...

  

CRACK..

Crack cocaine is the freebase form of cocaine that can be smoked. It may also be termed rock, work,^[1] hard, iron, cavvy, base, or just crack; it is said to be the most addictive form of cocaine,^[2] although this has been contested. Crack rocks offer a short but intense high to smokers.^[3][4] Crack appeared primarily in impoverished inner-city neighborhoods in New York, Los Angeles, and Miami in late 1984 and 1985.

What a horrible existence.. but it

continues and continues.. because he thinks he has this thing licked cause he can clean up and keep everybody snowed.. but as I see it... but there might not be a next time.. 

Waiting, waiting and waiting... just STUPID.... just STUPID... 

I'm really not understanding this need to ALTER YOUR MIND.. to be COMPLETELY OUT OF CONTROL.. what is the true attraction of this horrible life changing and altering existence. What is the REAL attraction... what is it? 

This is really about a way that a person who is in no different position than the rest of us... as far as just trying to make ends meet in a horrible economy.. but he choses to bandaid.. or medicate the situation trying to forget or just not plain deal with life ...

I've lived through this life.. thinking that I may have missed out.. and should have pursued a "real" career.. or business.. but when it comes right down to it .. I'm the lucky one.. I know where my heart is .. I have strong passions that are reached everyday.. I grow in my God given talents everyday

... I might not be rich in the bank, fancy job, a luxury home.. but I have my very strong FAITH... and a loving Husband and Daughter.. and our Herbert.. and God as the head of my life..

Aloha & A Hui Hou

What has this world come to??

Growing up.. I never really paid much attention to "current events."  My Father, in his joking way .. would quiz me .. "Hey, who is the President of the United States?"  I was lucky I got that right! As I sit here watching CNN.. I'm almost sorry and very saddened in a way, that I finally started to pay attention.  

I really dont get people these days.. The Boston Bombings to now these poor women being kidnapped for a decade!!!  We have horrible storms wiping out entire towns and killing innocent families and children.   The latest video I've watched .. the brutal killing in London and then video taping their message as to why??  This is just absolutely, ultimately CRAZY to say the least..    I understand that there are people saying that the media, whichever station or news programing you're watching, tends to "play up" or sensationalize the news to make it seem even more attractive.. to the viewer but REALLY??? these are peoples REAL lives and REAL life circumstances..!!!  Its very sad to me that some of the media play up stories and REAL LIFE situations like they're the latest novel needing publicity.  Thats pretty SICK if you ask me.  

I think one of the worst stories now that people are following is the "Jodi Arias Show".... REALLY???  She's trying to sell t-shirts?? wants to start a book club??? in jail?? Does she think its going to be a social event??  ARE YOU REALLY KIDDING ME??? I dont think death is enough punishment for her.. she should be in solitary for the rest of her life.. NO ATTENTION .. that would be her punishment.. Such a horrific crime.. could never be construed as "self defense".. very very sad.  All of this is pretty damn sad.. if you ask me.  I really dont know what this world has come to.... I'm just glad I have my faith and I know where I'm going in the end.. 

Just keep you faith strong.. and only look ahead... Until next time..

A Hui Hou... 

Aloha to everyone...


There are sooooo many things in life that keep us extremely busy... and we forget the things we like to do most...  


Its again, an end to another school year.. kids are growing so quickly .. and times sure are changing very quickly.. I think I've noticed more this year than any other.. that due to this extremely lousy economy there are alot of people moving, having to sell.. and/or scaling down and trying to save money.  I think we all may face making sacrifices in some way or another.  But the main thing we really must remember is that it is really all "just stuff!" I think during all our lifetimes we all got caught up in obtaining "stuff" in our lives.. whether its personal items, items and gadgets for our homes..or just plain old "keeping up with the Jones' type syndrome."  


What I have learned through all of this is to be thankful for all I DO HAVE... for having my health, family,  and my very deep faith in God.. is really all I need...


Enjoy your day!!! 


Aloha & A Hui Hou!!! 

I'm sitting here wondering........

I'm sitting here 
wondering... how did I get to this spot... what were all the circumstances that led up to this point in our lives.... you always try to do the right thing.. say the 
right thing,   eat the right way, try to be            understanding, try to be a good listener, try to be .....  I ALWAYS put others first.. and myself last.. but at this time.... it doesn't seem to be helping much... I've been doing ALOT of praying these days... I know that I don't trust Him enough out of fear of the unknown... but trust and faith... is just that TRUST AND FAITH... It even states on our money.... 


IN GOD WE TRUST.... but do we REALLY...??? Do we REALLY TRUST????  It is very difficult to trust, sometimes... but we MUST... I know through the ups and downs in my life,  I really have trusted and prayed to God.. and the real trusting thing is to pray HIS WILL not your own... Wow..!!!  Yes we must understand that it is HIS Will be done.. He knows what our desires are.. and really what is best for us... but sometimes the difference between what He thinks and what WE think is best... seems quite a bit different.... 
"The Art of being a Mom" ... is just that ... quite an art....and it requires alot of trust ... in ourselves as the Wife, Mother and Mom.. friend.. sister.. whatever... it is a truly rewarding, difficult, exciting exhausting, once in a lifetime experience.  But once you really do experience it.. I promise you will never regret it..

I've now spent my day... with my little boy "Thunder"... it was a "slow" day... even working out, cleaning out things ... cleaning out the frig...gathering the trash..... chasing cats.. & geckos.. it was just a "slow" day... I'm praying God's will for this beloved, cherished little boy... I want his little body healed... and back to his fiesty old self.... I LOVE MY LITTLE BOY..... YOU'RE THE BEST!!!


Aloha & A Hui Hou!!!!!!!!